Quality Time vs. Quantity Time

"Quality time is an accident that happens while spending quantity time with someone." Bob Thorne

This is a totally unplanned and off-the-cuff post, but our pastor said something this morning that, in my opinion, was so profound, and it so completely captured one of the main reasons we homeschool that I just had to make a printable of it for our homeschool area to match the one I made for the Mother Teresa quote the other day. And then, of course, I wanted to share it with you! He said that the idea of quality time vs. quantity time is a myth, and that he believes that “quality time is an accident that happens while spending quantity time with someone.” I just love that! I’ve been pondering it all day, and it’s so true.

"Quality time is an accident that happens while spending quantity time with someone." Bob Thorne

It also fits so well with our Season of Thanksgiving! Just yesterday, I posted on Mommynificent how I have yet to come across a culture in which people celebrate their harvest festival or Thanksgiving alone. Thanksgiving is always a time of togetherness, of just being together. A festival of quantity time! And if you think over the Thanksgivings you’ve experienced, I bet that, in the midst of all that quantity time, there were a lot of “accidental quality time moments,” more often referred to as memories!

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By Tina Chen

Tina is a book-loving, globe-trotting, home-schooling mom of five kids. Her greatest passions are learning with her husband how to live and love like Jesus and teaching others to do the same. She particularly enjoys teaching kids to worship and pray fervently and creatively. She loves music, cooking, and reading, and is a complete sucker for a good redemptive analogy! Tina blogs at mommynificent.com and desperatehomeschoolers.com.


  1. What a beautiful thought! And it is so needed in our culture!
    We all desire QUALITY time with others, yet don’t give QUANTITY. We try to shove quality into a ‘sacrificial’ few minutes, walking away disappointed because our expectations are dashed in our rush to other things.
    IF only we’d slow down, enjoy each opportunity of “together” as gifts of special moments.
    I think we’d find “accidents” of quality tucked away in those times.

    And what a dimension of QUALITY the gift would be if we considered more time, a QUANTITY of time with our very best FRIEND, the Lord Jesus, through His precious WORD, the Bible.

    Thanks for the reminder!

  2. Just recalled another surprise when spending time with children. It’s a treat to hear what they remember of time together and often, they surprise me with what I missed, something I took for granted, did out of necessity, or did without much thought, yet, it meant QUALITY to them and when they recall the memory, it spills out with such love!

  3. Hey Tina,

    Wonderful! You should link this post up in my homeschool link up! I put the URL under the website heading. Time is something I so often take for granted. I have so little of it. Thanks for the reminder. My baby reminds me frequently when I am furiously blogging and he comes over and tries to shut my laptop. He wants me to spend time with him.

    No matter what I’m doing, I stop and make sure I play/hold and love all the kids.

    Thank also for the free printable!

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